It’s everywhere. The narrative exists in order to place people into two boxes. Male and Female, boy or girl, man and women. Ever wondered why pubic toilets are gendered into two bathrooms? Boys pee in one room, girls pee in the other. Or an other example, have you wondered why filing in a form there is only the option to tick male and female? This is the cis narrative at work and why does it work? Because it’s easier for our society to place people into two categories based on the genitals we are born with at birth and thus assigning people into male (born with penis) and female (born with vagina). This however erases, trans, non-binary, genderqueer, intersex and other marginalized groups that do not comply to this narrative.
According to the CDC (Centers for disease control and prevention) , 1 in 68 of us are been identified as having ASD, and is 4.5 times more common in “boys” (1 in 42) than among “girls” (1 in 189). The problem here is that what do we mean by “boy” and “girl”. We are not referring to how they identify or how they define their gender, but how our cis dominated society choose to define gender which as mentioned above is based of content of genitalia. Take myself for example, I was was assigned male at birth and am a women. Can you see the problem here? I’m in the 1 in 42. I’m on the wrong side of those numbers. I am a “boy”. Given the fact that they are studies being done that seems to show a large number of people who are both autistic and transgender, it makes me wonder how many of us are on the wrong side of those numbers? It also saddens me how of course doesn’t factor in non-binary autistic’s.
So when the great and powerful NAS, the Autism society of America and Autism S***ks mention girls and women, they are not talking about people like me. They are talking about people who have vaginas. They are reducing people to the content of their genitals. Which is not only sexist, it’s cis-sexist. It appears these organisations (like the liberal feminist movement) are only interested in getting white/cis/middle class women (cough, cough Temple Gradin) to speak on their podiums about how they are finally listening to women after all these years, whist counting the money they have made from their latest scam (donate to us and we will cure your child) and ignoring the voices of many women who have something to offer to the conversation.
“Men” are more withdrawn, whist, “women” are more social.
“Men” show less emotions, whist “women” are more emotional.
“Men” are more rigid, whist “women” are less rigid.
This isn’t autism talking, this is patriarchy talking. If you look closely enough, you’ll see we say the same things about allistic/NT “men” and “women”. I’m not saying let’s not talk about the huge bias towards Cis men that the autism diagnosing process has. I’m not saying let’s not talk about autistic women and girls. But let’s do this that doesn’t erase anyone. Let’s include all autistic girls, including trans-girls. And whilst we are at it, lets acknowledge the existence of other genders. Let’s be a fuck load more inclusive than what we have been.